Wee Words Wednesday: Sexual Healing Poem

I haven’t done a Wee Words Wednesday for quite some time, but I stumbled upon a powerful poem about premarital sex that I felt I had to share with my readers.


Aren’t you glad you serve a God who loves you enough to deal with your dirt, your secrets and your lies…a God who will never leave nor forsake you. Remember that we can always reconcile with our God at any time. He’s waiting…

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365 Reasons I Married My Husband (Reasons 212-218)

Well hello everyone!!! I hope you all enjoyed your holidays. Oh and HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!. I was traveling over the holidays since as many of you may know (if you follow me on twitter) that my hubby is out of the country on a work assignment. Oh, how I miss him terribly. Please keep him in your prayers because he is in a country governed by Sharia Law and while he is likely not going to experience any trouble, a wife still worries about her husband. Anyway, I just wanted to apologize for not updating my list of reasons why I married my sweetie. But, I’m back and I don’t foresee missing anymore weeks. That being said, it’s Thursday so that means I have a new list of 7 more reasons I married my husband. I can’t believe that after this post we’ll already be up to 218 reasons. I tell you God is so awesome and I love to not only honor my husband, but honor God as well for creating this man just for me. Soooooooo….the reason I married my husband is…

212. …he wants to be a good husband. My husband didn’t just want to be a husband, he wanted to be a good husband. Periodically, he takes it upon himself to check in with me. By this I mean he asks me if I’m happy. He wants to know if I’m satisfied with his performance as priest, provider and protector in this marriage. While I rarely ever have a complaint, he does take constructive criticism very well and we work together to put a plan in action to meet one another’s expectations. I don’t know who gave him this piece of advice to ask me to teach him what my needs are and to communicate about how he can better meet them, but I thank you! Also, I thank my husband for being the type of man who isn’t afraid to let me teach him how to love me, because that requires him to vulnerable with me and surrender his heart.


213. …he’s Team Jacob. This one makes me laugh. While my husband is anything but a Twilight fan he goes to every movie with me. While he never complains he spends most of the time in the theater with this look on his face that’s like, you know I must love you because there are so many things I’d rather be doing with my time right now. But, because my hubby has seen all of these sappy movies he’s admitted that if he had to be on a team it would be Team Jacob. I totally agree. His rationale, first Edward is dead and he can offer Bella no potential for a future whatsoever. They have to live a life of secrecy, deceit and lies. With Jacob, Bella would not have to change who she is or even who she wants to be. She can be open and honest about her feelings. He even says, heck, “They can go out into the sunlight together.” LOL! Basically he sees Bella a selfish, impatient human being who only thinks about herself and in my husband words, “Love is not self seeking, but it is patient!”

214. …his chin is so cute. My husband has an oval shaped face and he doesn’t really like his cheeks because even though he is a very lean man, his cheeks are a little puffy. It’s totally not a weigh thing, just the shape of his face. His chin has this little cushiony (he is probably going to kill me for writing this) part right under his bottom lip that has a very mild dimple and like his cheeks it’s a little puffy as well. I love it, I love it, I love it. Sometimes he thinks I’m going to kiss him on the lips, but I end up kissing his chin and he acts like he’s all annoyed, but I know he secretly loves it! :)

215. …he found a wife. I did not pursue my husband. We have known each other since we were 12, but when he became interested in me, he pursed me. When he became ready to take on a wife, he let me know that it was his intention to marry. I never once had to push him to grow up, be more mature or even decide where this relationship was going. When my husband asked me to marry him, I asked him why he wanted to marry me. He replied that in me he saw a wife, his wife. He was able to tell me the absolute qualities that I possessed that let him know he had found a wife. I don’t claim to be the perfect Proverbs 31 woman, although I strive to be like her. Like her, (my husbands words, not mine) I am confident, loving, giving, respectable, compassionate, smart, a hard worker and modest. Probably the reason that I knew he was most serious was when he called me blessed (Proverbs 31:28).

216. …he’s a natural leader. I can’t even begin to imagine how scary it would be to submit to a man with no leadership abilities. There are tons of women in relationships wondering where in the world it’s going. My husband has always had a plan that he has executed with grace and this allows me to feel confident in knowing that he his doing what is best for our family. I don’t mind being led when the path is clear. But because my hubby leads with such loving authority I wouldn’t even mind following him when the path is covered in darkness.

217. …he makes me want to give him the world. I mentioned before that my hubby and I used to often miscommunicate when it came to our respective love languages. And I admitted from time to time, we still do. Hey, no one’s perfect.  I tend to show love by giving gifts. My husband perceives love in the form of physical touch and quality time. Even still, I love this man and I want to give him everything his heart desires. I think when you love someone, you want to give them the world. You want to give them you, you want to give them the moon and the stars if that would make them happy.

218….he shares his French fries. Small tidbit about me. I am an only child. I admit, I have a problem with sharing. Why? Because I’ve never had to. I didn’t actually learn to share until I became a freshman in college and had to live with a roommate (who is still one of my best friends in the entire world). There is something infuriating to me about my hubby taking food off of my plate. I know that’s totally unfair because I take food off of his plate all of the time. While I know this is something that I personally need to work on, I am so happy to be married to a man who doesn’t mind sharing his French fries with me. The question is, what the heck is my problem? I think they have counseling for that. :)

If you are just joining me on this quest to list 365 reasons I married my hubby I encourage you to check out all of the other reasons I got married. Feel free to leave me some reasons you got married or want to get married in the comment box below. I love to hear from you guys!!!

Reasons 1-7

Reasons 7-14

Reasons 15-21

Reasons 22-28

Reasons 29-35

Reasons 36-42

Reasons 43-49

Reasons 50-56

Reasons 57-63

Reasons 64-70

Reasons 71-77

Reasons 78-84

Reasons 85-91

Reasons 92-98

Reasons 99-105

Reasons 106-112

Reasons 113-119

Reasons 120-126

Reasons 127-133

Reasons 134-140

Reasons 141-147

Reasons 148-154

Reasons 155-161

Reasons 162-168

Reasons 169-175

Reasons 176-182

Reasons 183-189

Reasons 190-197

Reasons 198-204

Reasons 205-211

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365 Reasons I Married My Husband (Reasons 205-211)

The reason I married my husband is…

205. …he can fight, but he chooses not to. I find it so sexy when a man can fight, but has the good sense not to. Fighting (unless we’re in immediate danger) is beneath my husband. If you say something to try to provoke him into a physical altercation he can break you down so good (without cursing) with his words that you’d be forced to turn around and go reexamine yourself. The fact that he can use his words to get his point across rather than resort to fighting is super sexy.  He’ll gladly burst anyone’s bubble if it grows too large.

206. …he makes my life easier. How many women can say that right? Everyday I wake up, I find some new reason to thank God for giving me my husband. The things he does, the way he does them and the fact that I know that everything he does is for our betterment as a family make my life so much easier. I appreciate that he is willing to take on burdens that should be mine, just so that I can focus on school and the development of my career. If I don’t say it enough dear husband, I appreciate you.

207. …he trusts me to make his life easier. If I’ve learned anything about marriage, I’ve learned that it’s about sacrifice. There are things that I am willing to do and comforts that I am willing to provide just so that my husband does not have to deal. I recognize that being a man, regardless of ethnicity, is hard. I thank God I don’t have to do or be responsible for the roles he has to play as a man and husband. It’s too hard and I don’t want to do his job. Being priest, provider and protector in his home and then having to go out into the world and fight to maintain his respect and integrity is a lot for a man. So, I play my role willingly as his submissive, loving, thoughtful, trustworthy, encouraging, compassionate and prayerful wife so that when he comes home, he doesn’t have to fight the world at large and me too.

208. …he can see situations for what they are. As I woman, I have a tendency to get wrapped up in my feelings. I can analyze a situation and come up with 30 different scenarios about who, what, when, why and how. I realize I waste a lot of time doing that so it helps to have my husband help me to evaluate a situation for what it really is. He’s less emotional which is helpful, but thankfully doesn’t lack understanding and compassion.

209. …he’s a morning person. I, myself, am anything but a morning person. The sun comes up I hide underneath the covers. That probably has a lot to do with the fact that I’m a night owl so by the time I make it into bed it’s nearly time to get up. Either way, I love that someone in my home has the capability to get up and get the day started. While I am most productive working through the night, hubby utilizes the daytime hours well. When we have something that needs to get done that we both have to work on, this opposing circadian rhythm experience serves us well.

210. …he didn’t kiss and tell. I have to remind you guys that I’ve known my husband since I was 12 years old so we have a lot of history here. Even from the time we were teenagers, my husband has always been a private person. He doesn’t boast or brag or tell his personal business to his friends. This is something I have always respected about him…that he respects me as well as himself.

211. …if I had a list, he’d embody all the qualities of my perfect mate. If you recall I wrote a blog post about why I don’t recommend a woman to make a list. You can check that out; however, if I did have a list there would only be 3 things on it. They are as follows: (1) he must have a personal relationship with God, (2) he must be a man of integrity and (3) he must be ambitious. While I don’t have a true list, these are three qualities about my husband that make glad I married him.

If you haven’t check out the other 204 reasons I married my hubby check them out below:

Reasons 1-7

Reasons 7-14

Reasons 15-21

Reasons 22-28

Reasons 29-35

Reasons 36-42

Reasons 43-49

Reasons 50-56

Reasons 57-63

Reasons 64-70

Reasons 71-77

Reasons 78-84

Reasons 85-91

Reasons 92-98

Reasons 99-105

Reasons 106-112

Reasons 113-119

Reasons 120-126

Reasons 127-133

Reasons 134-140

Reasons 141-147

Reasons 148-154

Reasons 155-161

Reasons 162-168

Reasons 169-175

Reasons 176-182

Reasons 183-189

Reasons 190-197

Reasons 198-204

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365 Reasons I Married My Husband (Reasons 198-204)

The reason I married my husband is…

198. …he will carry me to bed if I’m a sleep. Usually if this happens (and it’s rare) I wake up completely. Two reasons. 1. My husband and I are about the same size and height so I’m not too convinced he won’t drop me. 2. I feel terrible that he’s actually trying to lift me. Sometimes when I come home from work I am so dog tired that I fall asleep on the couch and cannot find the strength to get myself to my bed. That’s when my Superman comes to the rescue. Needless to say, he didn’t carry me over the threshold when we got back from our honeymoon.

199. …he washes his hands. Okay, I know this might sound strange, but I’m trying to also appreciate the little things. Okay…actually this is a big thing. I don’t know the exact statistic, but I know a large portion of the US male population does not regularly wash their hands. Gross!!!

200. …he kisses me on the cheek (I’m usually still in bed) every morning before he leaves the house. Did you know there is a statistic (yeah I’m on statistics today) that says a man who kisses his wife good-bye when he leaves for work every morning averages a higher income than does the husband who doesn’t kiss his wife. Husbands who exercise the rituals of affection tend to be more conscientious, more stable, more methodical, thus higher earners. I don’t know if I believe this or not, but I do look forward to a peck on the cheek before he leaves the house.

201. …he offers his opinion when asked. This has been a blessing and a curse. When it came to planning our wedding it was a blessing. When it came to decorating our apartment it was a curse. My hubby tends to like things in their place and he’s pretty opinionated about color schemes and the like. But, I do like that he’ll take the time to make a suggestion about how we decorate our home. He usually has some pretty good ideas. Honey, I promise never to make you sleep in a bedroom covered in flowers or weird print. I will honor your request to keep things clean and simple. Love ya!

202. …he doesn’t agree with commercialization of religious holidays. So we all know that Christmas is coming up and this is a time when a lot of people feel obligated to break the bank just to participate in the exchange of gifts. My husband has never felt this obligation. I used to think he was a Scrooge, but now I understand why he doesn’t feel any type of way about not exchanging gifts outside of our home. Digging a little deeper I see my husband’s rationale a little more clearly now. He believes that Christmas is Jesus’ birthday, not ours. He believes that people can get so wrapped up in the shopping, cooking and dealing with the stress of finances that they forget the true meaning of the season. And we all know that Jesus is the reasons for the season. On Christmas my husband makes sure that our observation of this day is to reflect on it’s true meaning, to give thanks and to reflect on how much our God truly loved evidenced by the gift of His Son. Yes, we do put up a tree, decorate, exchange gifts between one another and even prepare yummy food, but we never neglect the blessing in the birth of Christ. I appreciate the my husband basically refuses to let money (or lack thereof), stress and all the other hooray the comes along with the holiday season take a way the true meaning for him.

203. …he doesn’t take himself too seriously. Hubby is genuinely a fun person to be around. All of my friends say it. He’s easy to talk to, friendly, loves to laugh and has a great sense of humor.

204. …he’s intelligent. I am working to teach my husband about science (I’m a scientist by profession). Sometimes he catches on to concepts really quickly and has very thought provoking follow up questions. Unlike myself, when he starts talking about work (he’s an electrical engineer by profession) I sit there like a bump on a log. 0_o

If you’ve missed any of my other reasons, check them out below:

Reasons 1-7

Reasons 7-14

Reasons 15-21

Reasons 22-28

Reasons 29-35

Reasons 36-42

Reasons 43-49

Reasons 50-56

Reasons 57-63

Reasons 64-70

Reasons 71-77

Reasons 78-84

Reasons 85-91

Reasons 92-98

Reasons 99-105

Reasons 106-112

Reasons 113-119

Reasons 120-126

Reasons 127-133

Reasons 134-140

Reasons 141-147

Reasons 148-154

Reasons 155-161

Reasons 162-168

Reasons 169-175

Reasons 176-182

Reasons 183-189

Reasons 190-197

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365 Reasons I Married My Husband (Reasons 190-197)

Hi guys and gals! Sorry I missed you over that Thanksgiving break, but I’m back with 7 more reasons I married my hubby so here goes. The reasons I married my husband is…

190. …I’d never considered the possibility of a man leading me until him. Before my husband, I was stubborn, bullheaded, guarded and a complete joy to be in a relationship with. These were all things I was taught to be because men are evil and will take advantage of you (or so I was told). I had never, and had I not come to know what the Word says about marriage, would never have consider following a man. Understanding God’s plan for marriage helped me not only to trust in God, but to trust in my husband’s leadership. That being said, in every sense of the word, I submit myself to my husband. I’ll follow him anywhere and I don’t mean on twitter. ;)

191. …because he invests so much into our marriage. On our last premarital counseling session I knew our lives as a couple would be forever changed. Once my husband learned what kind of husband that God would have him to be I knew that he would invest all of his efforts into being the type of husband that is pleasing to God. While there are times when he completely misses the mark, it is so easy to be patient with his shortcomings for two reasons: 1 – He has a heart that seeks God first. 2 – He acknowledges his shortcomings and searches for the lesson to be learned.

192. …he never boasts. I have never been attracted to a man who boasts. While many may not do it verbally, some do it by the way they dress or by acquiring “things” (i.e. cars, houses, jewelry) that they can show off to impress other people. My husband recognizes that just as fast as you can acquire wealth, it can be taken away. He knows there is a difference between sharing, through testimony, the blessings that God has bestowed and acting like the things you have acquired are by your actions alone.

193. …because he has high expectations of me. This one makes me a little emotional because it means more than I could ever express with words. You know that song by Marvin Sapp called The Best In Me. Well it’s about God being able to see the best qualities in a person and being able to draw those things out of us to utilize for his glory. There are times when I don’t believe in myself or my abilities, times when I am so tired, discouraged and broken that I literally don’t know how to pick up and start again (science/my job has a tendency to do that to you). My husband continually reminds me of who I am, but not just that, who I am as the women he chose to be his wife. He reminds me that he married a women who is strong, dedicated, confident and has an incredible work ethic. He refuses to let me get down on myself during my times of scientific failure. He truly sees the best in me, when I can only see the worst. His expectations are high, but not unreasonable. If I could thank him for being the cheerleader that he is, I wouldn’t even know where to start. I am grateful.

194. …because I can see God’s favor on his life. My husband is so blessed. I can see it every day. I can see it in the opportunities with which he is presented. I can see it in the goodness of the people he calls his friends and how much they love and look out for him. I can see it in his plans and how they just seem to come together so easily and effortlessly although I know he’s worked his butt off. I look at my husband and I am in awe of God’s grace because I can see what he’s doing in his life. I am more than honored to be a part of His will and his blessings.

195. …he doesn’t believe in celebrating certain accomplishments. So, I’m watching T.V. with my hubby and there are these kids talking about how they get money from their parents for getting A’s or B’s. Based on the grade the amount of money changes. My husband looks at me and says, “We will not be giving our children money for doing the things they are supposed to do in life.” We both agree that parents should praise their children and celebrate when they have done something out of the norm in terms of their academics, but to simply get money for getting good grades…ummmm….nope. Getting good grades is your job. You do not get awarded for doing your job. Win a merit scholarship or join an honor society and then we’ll celebrate, but not by giving our kids money.

196. …he’s a terrible liar. My husband believes greatly in the power of a women’s intuition. He fears it. He knows it can read right through him so…he just confesses. I’m like a detective or a prosecuting attorney…I can poke holes in any theory simple because of my training as a scientist. I am naturally inquisitive and have multiple ways of testing a hypothesis. At the end of the day…around me, the truth usually comes out.

197. …he makes me feel like the luckiest girl in the world. No kidding! He’s really such a great guy. While I could say a lot of things about him (like every woman could about her hubby) that are less than nice, I won’t because the purpose of this 365 reasons exercise is to help me reflect on what makes my hubby extraordinary. He funny, kind, sweet and generous. All things I love about him make up for every shortcoming he has.

Missed a single reason I married my hubby? Check them out below…also, feel free to share with me and my readers why you married your hubby. Even if you aren’t married, begin praying that God is shaping the man that is to be your future hubby, and shaping you too, so that you are ready when he comes.

Reasons 1-7

Reasons 7-14

Reasons 15-21

Reasons 22-28

Reasons 29-35

Reasons 36-42

Reasons 43-49

Reasons 50-56

Reasons 57-63

Reasons 64-70

Reasons 71-77

Reasons 78-84

Reasons 85-91

Reasons 92-98

Reasons 99-105

Reasons 106-112

Reasons 113-119

Reasons 120-126

Reasons 127-133

Reasons 134-140

Reasons 141-147

Reasons 148-154

Reasons 155-161

Reasons 162-168

Reasons 169-175

Reasons 176-182

Reasons 183-189

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