Yesterday my good friend Bobbi, over at Nicole Morgan Studios, gave birth to her son 8 weeks early. Baby Liam weighed 4lbs 13 oz at birth. We were really worried about mommy and baby Liam. Mom is doing better although still experiencing some complications and Baby Liam is having some problems breathing on his own. I took to twitter last night asking my faithful followers to include Mommy and Baby in their prayers. The response was overwhelming and I am so thankful that so many of you were willing to offer your prayers, thoughts and support during this trying time for this family. I truly believe in the power of prayer so I ask for your continued prayers as he is not out of the woods yet. Thank you all so much! Many blessings.
Every Tuesday our friend Tracy over at Looking For My Spouse hosts an internet radio show covering topics of interests that provide education to marriage-minded singles on what it takes to be a spouse, find a spouse and most importantly remain as spouse. Tonight’s show will feature certified relationship coach and blogger over at Knowledge 4 Life, Quentin McCall. They will discuss his blog post entitled 9 Reasons Why Being Single is Good For You.
Quentin’s coaching style uses scripture based wisdom–coupled with his personal experiences and successes to help people around the world to build trusted long-term relationships. Quentin is also a mentor, blogger, author, sought-after and inspirational speaker, community leader and creator of the proprietary and acclaimed Knowledge 4 Life formula–helping people across the global community create an abundant life driven by His will, purpose and blessings.
The show starts at 7pm EST. I’ll be calling in to offer my views on learning to be Happily Unmarried and Why Marriage Is Not For Everyone. Be sure to click here to check out tonight’s show. Listeners are encouraged to call in to speak with Quentin, Tracy or myself. The number is 818.691.7401. Hope you’ll check it out. It’s going to be a great show!
The University of California, which is one of the top schools in the country, charges different tuition rates for in-state versus out-of-state students. Out-of-state students may pay as much as $22,000 more for their education than in-state students. A common solution for lowering tuition costs is for a student to obtain residency in the state in which the student attends college. Unfortunately, for non-Californians there are very strict residency laws and it can take up to 2 years to go through the residency process. A student wishing to become a California resident as to meet three criteria: (1) they must be physically present in the state of California, (2) they must demonstrate an intention to stay in the state of California and (3) they must demonstrate financial independence. While the first two criteria are the easiest for the student to demonstrate it’s the third that causes the most headache. The quickest way for a student to demonstrate financial independence is by getting married. As long as the parents of the students do not claim the married student on their annual income taxes the former out-of-state student will be granted the reduced in-state tuition. Now of course the University of California will not admit to being unaware of some students marrying for reduced tuition costs, but they are out there and sadly many of them have resorted to looking for their spouses on Facebook. Here is the part that really made my jaw hit the floor…this is completely legal!!! And I might add that there are professional student match making services that help students who want to find other students who want a “marriage of convenience” and they’ll even assist with the divorce after the “couple” has graduated from college!!!
I understand that students joined together in a “marriage of convenience” stand to save themselves thousands of dollars on tuition and fees. I understand that these students are simply trying to acquire the best educations they can. I understand that the amount of financial aid appears to be declining and/or more competitive to obtain while the tuition and fees continue to skyrocket, but I ask, isn’t this unethical? I know it’s not illegal, but how is this okay? First, the students are completely “getting over” on the college/institution rates, which in my opinion is a form of fraud. Second, these marriages disregard and disrespect the entire covenant of marriage. A marriage of convenience teaches these students that marriage doesn’t have to be taken seriously. It teaches them that in this world it is acceptable to do drastic things and even sell your soul in order to get ahead in life. The sad part is these students have taken something so beautiful and turned it into something from which they can financially benefit. Does anyone respect the sanctity of marriage anymore? As a Christian, I think it’s absolutely disgusting that anyone could or even would cheapen the beautiful masterpiece that God created called marriage. I’m sorry, but this entire thing sounds like marital prostitution to me.
What are your thoughts? The floor is yours. Comments? Concerns? Questions? Solutions?
Some of you may be asking God why we have to go through certain situations in our marriages. We get so caught up in the “why” and the “…but how long” of our situation that we forget that we need to give our burdens over to the Lord and just trust Him. God will allow many events to come into our lives, some good and some bad, some that make sense and some that never will, but every one of those incidents in our lives serve as a part of his plan and purpose for us. God can take any trial you face and use that situation for His glory.
I want to remind you that when you decided to live for God you also decided that you would allow him to use you and the situations in your life for His purpose. As God’s children, we know that every event that happens to us first goes through his screen of protection. He promised NEVER to give us more than we could handle (1 Corinthians 10:13). For that reason we can rejoice and be glad in the face of adversity (Romans 5:3). We have assurance that God is working in our lives. The work He is doing is ultimately strengthening and developing our character. Be comforted in the fact that despite our trials, he will NEVER leave us (Hebrews 13:5). God wants us to rely on Him for our strength. Right now there are marriages under Satan’s attack, but I want you to remember that God is in control of every situation. Because He asks us to trust Him, we don’t have to worry ourselves with the whys, the how longs, the why us…I implore you to, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight (Proverbs 3:5-6).
Right now there couples all over the world that are going through some awful things in their marriages. I get direct message tweets, e-mails, Facebook messages and comments on this blog from my readers and followers asking me to pray for their marriages. I want you to know that I am praying and I hope you are praying too. I found this awesome prayer over at Prayer For Marriage that I want to share with you today. Pray this prayer with me:
Be merciful upon these couples and all who have marriage difficulties. Please help those whose marriages are faltering because of illness, unemployment and stress. Please help those whose marriages are failing due to lack of communication, or due to infidelity. We ask Your powerful help for these couples and their families. Please send Your Holy Spirit to help them resolve their issues. Please help families to flourish in love and unity and with gospel values. Please heal those families suffering as consequence of marriage break-up. Please give them healing and please give them courage and comfort.
Help those who are in danger of deciding to leave a marriage. Help them to put aside the prevalent belief gained in media, books, magazines and movies that ‘falling out of love” means the end of a relationship. Instead it challenges couples to live according to what Jesus teaches about love. Help them to become aware the God never commanded that we ‘fall in love,” He only repeatedly tells us to love God above all and to love others as ourselves, faithfully and genuinely even in times of sadness and difficulty.
Lord, I lift up all hurting marriages to you. Father, marriage and our spouses are gifts from you. I pray that you will touch all of our hearts and bring us closer to you. Bring our spouses close to you. Restore our marriages so that we may be one as you have shown us in your word.
O God, grant us this prayer for marriage difficulties through your son Jesus Christ our Lord.
I’ve always wondered why the wedding band is worn on the 4th finger. Some say it’s because there is a major artery in that finger that runs directly towards the heart. I’m not so sure about that, but I do love this Chinese explanation in the video below. Check it out and follow along below. Enjoy!: