The reason I married my husband is…
85. …keeps no accounts of right or wrong (1 Corinthians 13:5). I’m pretty bad about this personally. Once I’ve said I’ve forgiven, I tend to forget that I’ve forgiven. I’m human, we all are. People have a tendency to hold onto past hurts. I don’t know how hubby does it, but once he’s made the decision to forgive and move on, that’s exactly what he does. He doesn’t keep track of things that have happened in the past and treats any new arguments that may arise between us as new issues, not old issues resurfacing.
86. …the love he gives is not self-seeking. The bible says in 1 Corinthians 13:5, that love is not self-seeking. I’ve known my husband for a long, LONG time and I have never gotten the feeling (not even once) that he does what he does for me or loves me the way he loves me expecting something in return. He understands that love should be given without conditions.
87. …he is patient and kind. Now, don’t get me wrong…hubby is really only patient with me, but he has to be (1 Corinthians 13:4) because this is how the Word of God says love should be, especially love between a husband and wife. He’s kind to everyone though so I guess he’s halfway there. We’re all works in progress.
88. …he sanctifies me. If you’ve ever heard this quote by Oscar Wilde, you’ll know exactly what I mean: “How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being?” I don’t think hubby has ever heard this quote, but he lives up to it daily. The bible says, that a husband is to sanctify his bride as Christ does his church (Ephesians 5:25-29). Basically a husband should treat his wife just as good as he treats himself. He should set her apart from all things as something special, showing her and others that his bride is cherished, cared for, exalted and respected. Yes ladies…your hubby should place you on a little pedestal, just a little shorter than the one he has God on. *wink*
89. …he protects and defends his role as head of household. My hubby is fully aware that he has God given authority over me as his wife and our home (Ephesians 5:23-24). This does not mean that he controls or thinks for me, but it does mean that I have to give him respect as the leader of our household. When I find myself concerning myself with his duties, hubby will promptly let me know that I need not concern myself with “his job” as head of household. This situation has arisen quite a bit lately as I am beginning to make some very difficult career decisions. I often concern myself with our finances although we have already agreed that hubby will deal this burden. As the end of grad school is drawing near I often feel that I am being a financial burden on our family, but he refuses to let me take on this worry. Thanks Hubby. I’m doing my best to stay out of your way and let you do your job.
90. …he sacrifices for me. When we were in high school hubby saved money so that he could fly to my hometown and take me to my Senior prom. When I was in college hubby drove down at the end of every year to help me put my things in storage and even drove me back to my hometown with a truck full of my stuff at the end of my Senior year. Hubby made sure to visit me at least twice per year until he moved to Houston (tough on a college student’s budget). Hubby needed a new suit, but instead bought me a new coat, once again placing my needs above his own. One year we were traveling to see family and hubby got a hotel so that I would feel more comfortable and not have to sleep on the family floor. I told him he didn’t have to, but he insisted. Hubby really wanted to go visit friends out of town, but thought the money would be better spent helping me relax after a tough week with a weekend staycation. Hubby (will not admit to this) made sure that I had everything I wanted to make our wedding design complete. This is just a small list of the things I know you have given up so that I would come first. You always make me feel like you put me first and for that I am greatly appreciative. Your thoughtfulness is not in vain. I hope you know that I notice and I thank you.
91. …he doesn’t boast. Hubby recognizes that all blessings come from God. Just as easily as you get things, they can be taken away. You’ll never hear hubby boast about material items or even privileges he has received. There is nothing better than a humble man.
It’s such a blessing being married to such a wonderful man. Check out all the other reasons I know that marrying my hubby was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. Enjoy!