On Friday I had my wisdom teeth removed. Since then I have spent a lot of time on the couch zoning in and out of consciousness due to some very nice prescription drugs (thanks Doc!). While I was having a moment of consciousness I realized that the television was on. I can’t remember what I was watching, but I do remember the conversation that took place between the characters on the show, movie or whatever it was that was on. There was a younger woman and she was sitting at the kitchen table with an older lady. The younger lady was asking the older lady about marriage. I guess the older lady was having a particularly discouraging day because she told the younger lady, “Honey, there will be times years after you’re married when you just sit there and look at your husband from across the room and think to yourself, why in the world did I marry this man?” The younger lady looked really discouraged after this and you could tell she was questioning whether marriage was the right thing for her. I couldn’t help but to think how sad that whole thing was. I mean this lady and her husband had obviously been married for a very long time and she had days where she actually couldn’t come up with ONE reason that she married her husband? Now I imagine they must have had some difficult times, what couple doesn’t? I imagine that they probably had fights now and then or even struggled with keeping the spark in their marriage, but what couple doesn’t? I was simply baffled that after all of the years this couple was married, she couldn’t think of even ONE reason that she married her husband.
When my husband and I got engaged we went to Christian premarital counseling. Our first homework assignment was to write letters to each other explaining why we want to marry the other and why the other should marry us. This was a very eye opening exercise that did two things: 1. encouraged communication between us as a couple and 2. gave us something to look back on when times got hard. I have decided to take it a step further because my marriage is the single most important thing that I have going on my life. It is the one relationship that I have that is closer than any friend, any family member or any anybody. We aspire to keep this relationship only second to the one we have with Christ. So, that I do not find myself 50 years old, talking to my daughter in the kitchen and telling her that I cannot think of a single reason that I married her father I am starting this list. Each week for the next 52 weeks I will highlight 7 reasons that I married my husband. When times get hard, when we are arguing, when I can barely stand to look him in the face because he’s made me so angry, I vow to go back to this list and remember all of the reasons that I decided that spending the rest of my life with this man would be the second most important, life changing, and life affirming decision that I have ever made.
So here is my list of the first 7 reasons my heart is completely in my hubby’s hands. The reasons I married my husband are…:
- …he has a relationship with our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. I wanted a partner with whom I could be equally yoked. We both take our spirituality very seriously. Since this is such an important part of my life, I needed this to be an important part of my husband’s life as well.
- …I respect him. My husband carries himself in such a way that commands respect. It’s obvious in the things that he says and does. Even friends and family have remarked on what a respectful and respectable young man he is.
- …he opens the car door for me EVERY time I get in. His manners are a SERIOUS turn on.
- …he makes me feel beautiful. My hubby is constantly flirting with me, although not always at the most appropriate times…I still appreciate it.
- …he is very responsible with money. It is important to know whether you are marrying a spender or a saver. I can trust that all of our bills will be paid on time and that he never takes on more financially that we can handle. He is excellent at this job, which makes me feel completely confident in the way he handles the finances.
- …he is dependable. My husband has always been a man of his word. When he says he will do something, he does it. He has yet to break a promise that he has made to me.
- …he is my best friend. I can tell my hubby anything and he’ll be there to share in my joy and my sadness. He is the keeper of my secrets and one of my favorite shopping buddies.