Do any of you remember watching Sesame Street as a child? Well I do and one of my favorite parts of the show was “The Letter of the Day” segment. Usually this wasn’t just a segment but the theme for entire show would be the chosen letter of the day. This letter would carry over into almost everything that happened on Sesame Street that day. For instance, if the letter of the day was “S” the residents of Sesame Street would do activities starting with this letter, such as swimming, singing, skating or studying. They might even have a scavenger hunt to look for objects beginning with the letter “S”. I also remember that at the end of the show they always did a bonus word to help reinforce and facilitate that you really learned something about the letter of the day. I think we can still learn a lot from Sesame Street even though we are older and already know all of our letters. Sometimes though, its good to humble ourselves like children so that we can keep learning new things. So today, I declare the official letter of the day is the letter “P”. Today we will relearn some words beginning with the letter P and we will, like the residents of Sesame Street would do, practice (another P word!!!) using these words. The only difference is that we will apply the “P” words we relearn today to our marriages. Today on The Science of Marriage Blog we will relearn 3 “P” words and a bonus word that will help drive home and ensure we really relearned all about the letter “P”. So lets get started!
When we have trials (and at some point we all do) in our marriages our peace can become disturbed. We may find ourselves constantly bickering and in disagreement. But, we have to remember one thing: We can only find peace through our Heavenly Father. Last week I posted on Twitter: You must be at peace with God before you can be at peace in your marriage. Here is the proof: God promised us peace that transcends all understanding (Philippians 4:7). He promised that if we just keep our minds on him he will, in fact, give us “perfect peace” (Isaiah 26:3). Things can get rocky in our marriages but as long as we acknowledge God as the creator of marriage and that his creation was “good” we are not to let our hearts be troubled (John 14:27). Our God is a God of peace and he wants peace within your marriage. To truly relearn the word “peace” and apply it to your marriage practice trusting in Him and see what peace he gives you.
God give us power in our marriages through our biblical roles of love and respect. This is a heavy burden but we must adopt these principles in order to have a marriage that is pleasing to Him. Husband and wives, God gives us power, through our acts of submission, love, and faith, in order to influence our spouse to fulfill God’s purpose in their lives (1 Corinthians 7:14). How wonderful and intimidating at the same time to know that your relationship with God can have power and influence over your spouse. However; we are not to be afraid of this power because through the peace that only God can give us in our marriage, He tell us that He has already given us “the spirit of power” (2 Timothy 1:7). To relearn the word “power” always bear in mind the influence you have over your spouse. We have to treat our marriages like a ministry because you never know who is watching…and if we have power to influence our spouse by our faith, what type of influence do you think you have over the outsiders of your marriage?
You need to know that God brought the two of you together. Being called into marriage is possibly one of the greatest responsibilities and commitments you will ever have/make with God. You have to know that he called you according to his purpose (Romans 8:28). Often times we wonder why God put us in a certain situation, with a certain person, or in a certain place or time. We ask these questions especially when times are hard in our marriages. Just know that God has a purpose for you in your marriage and although he may not have revealed it to you yet, he calls you to be steadfast and give yourself fully to His work (1 Corinthians 15:58). Remember, you’ve made a covenant with God and your spouse, not a business contract. In order to relearn the word “purpose” as it relates to your marriage, begin to thank God through all of your circumstances (1 Thessalonians 5:18) and remember that he promised never to leave us nor forsake us (Deuteronomy 31:8). Count every trial you face in marriage on joy because our reward is great (James 1:2; Matthew 5:12).
Bonus “P” Word – PRAYER
Marriage is not about the two of you, its about the three of you. The easiest way to include God in your marriage is through intimate conversation through prayer. Ask God to help you realize the 3 P’s of Marriage. Ask him to help you see that you can have peace in your marriage, that you do have power and you were placed in your marriage for His purpose. And remember this, if you make your spouse the source of all of your happiness, you are limiting what God can do in your marriage. Pray for you spouse, your marriage and remember that even when it gets hard you can do all things through Christ who give you strength (Philippians 4:13). Trust in him implicitly to give you peace, allowed you to embrace your power and to show you his purpose for your marriage! Prayer can bring divine power into your marriage.
That concludes our “Letter of the Day” segment on The Science of Marriage Blog. I hope you’ll continue to make the 3 P’s of Marriage a consistent part of your daily lives. Blessings!