The 30 Day Spouse Encouragement Challenge – Day 10

Wives: “Behold you are handsome, my beloved! Yes, pleasant!…” Song of Solomon 1:16a

We all crave appreciation. We want to know that we are valued and loved. Early love letters probably reflected our admiration, but if we’re not careful, our spouse will forget why we were drawn to him. If you still have any of your old love letters, re-read them for clues to deepen your current level of appreciation for your spouse.

When we spend time criticizing our husbands, we lose time that could be spent admiring them. As you consider various ways to encourage your husband, ask, “How can I admire him?”

Does your husband know that you think he is attractive? What was one of the characteristics in your husband that first drew you to him? Was it a physical characteristic, or something else?

Was it his gentle, compassionate eyes? Kindness or concern for others? An easy-going confidence? A steadiness that comes from trusting in the Lord? Strength of character in a culture that lacks integrity? Do you see at least a glimpse of that characteristic in him today? Whatever it is, tell him!

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Husbands: It has been a while since we checked in. How are you doing with the basics?

  • You can’t say anything negative about your wife . . . to your wife . . . or to anyone else about your wife.
  • Say something that you admire or appreciate about your wife . . . to your wife . . . or to someone else about your wife every day.

Are you finding it is getting easier or getting harder to stick to the basic premise of the challenge?

Call a male friend today and talk about how you are doing with the challenge. Tell him your struggles and your successes. If your friend is taking on the challenge too, ask how he is doing and encourage one another.

“Husbands, love your wives.” Col 3:19

Today’s task is simple, but oh so important. Tell your wife that you love her.

Do you realize how important it is for your wife to know that you love her? It is nearly as important to her as oxygen. She needs to hear it often, and preferably accompanied by a hug and a kiss.

Written and distributed by Claudia J. Pate

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