365 Reasons I Married My Husband (Reasons 240-246)

The reason I married my husband is…

240. …he doesn’t allow daddy issues to hinder his manhood. Like many children, my husband did not grow up with a father in the home. I personally believe that this experience has helped shape him into a man with wonderful qualities. Sometimes you have to turn a negative into a positive and that’s exactly what he has done.  My husband often talks about the kind of parent he wants to be and the kind of men he hopes to raise (providing that we have sons). What I see in him is a man who wants to pour into his future children everything that he didn’t get from his own father. I see a man who wants the responsibility of raising spiritual, responsible, respectable and productive children. I see a man who is not angry or bitter towards his own father for his choices. I see a man who never makes excuses, who takes responsibility and who makes every attempt to right his wrongs. I see a man who despite a lack of physical fatherly parenting makes a daily decision to be the type of man that would make his Heavenly Father say, “Well done, my good and faithful servant.” I am blessed to call him my husband.

241. …he likes to spoon. My husband is an incredibly affectionate person. Since his primary love language is physical touch and well…mine is NOT, it’s taken a lot of getting used to. I never want to make him feel unloved or undesired so even when I’d rather revert back into my only child-like syndrome ways and sit quietly in a room alone, I give my hubby the affection he needs. Actually, he’s helped me to see that I like spooning and cuddling almost as much as he does. What I love most is that he has a “need” to be close to me. Certainly does a girl’s self esteem pretty good. ;)

242. …he takes pride in his appearance. My husband has a philosophy: In order to keep marriage spicy each party should do their best to make/keep themselves attractive to their spouse, but mostly for their own confidence and self esteem. My husband gets weekly haircuts, keeps his fingernails and toenails manicured. He never lets his beard get scruffy. He regularly works out and tries to consume healthy meals. He wears clothing that fit him well and overall always looks handsome to me and he’s one of the most confident persons I know.

243. …he hates weave and make up. You know, I don’t mind weave, but I do mind a bad weave or a silky ponytail and roots of a totally different texture, oh and lace fronts. Come on ladies, you know what I’m talking about.  Part of what my husband finds attractive aside from my glowing personality :) is my natural look. I wear my own (real) hair and I hardly ever wear makeup. I love that my husband prefers the “natural” me…I do too.

244. …he writes things down. Now this one characteristic alone makes me feel like my husband is a blessing from heaven. Ladies, ever ask your husband to do a series of tasks or pick up a series of things from the grocery store and he either forgets half of them or half of the stuff you asked for at the store? Even if my husband is going to Subway for me he writes down everything I want on my sandwich and comes back with exactly what I’ve asked for. He’s always been really good about making lists and following through with each task. One other thing he does is courtesy call me to verify that he’s selecting the correct grocery item (i.e. whole grain or 9 grain, with wings or without :) ). I appreciate him so much for this! I feel so much like he’s tapping into my primary love language, acts of service, when he’s thoughtful in this manner.

245. …he’s honest to a fault. If there is a question to which you want a truthful answer and you ask my husband, I beg you, please be ready because he’s not going to hold anything back. Now, while his intention is not to hurt anyone’s feelings he is going to be honest with you. This is something I very much respect about his character. I experienced his blatant honesty just a couple of weeks ago. I have had these shoes that my husband hates and apparently has hated them for a long time (they are some Ugg knockoffs) unbeknownst to me. I made the mistake of asking him what he thought of my outfit for that day and when I tell you he went in on those boots, he went in! I could tell he and these boots had had some pent up agitation for some time. It was so funny the way hubby started out by saying, “I’m not trying to be funny but…” He spent about 5 minutes telling me how horrible these boots were and then offered to buy me some new ones. I just sat looking at him the whole time he was talking like, wow, I never knew he hated these boots with such passion. Anyway, I’m glad he could be honest with me (my feelings were in now way hurt by his words) and I got some new boots out of the deal. ;)

246. …he keeps me from becoming a hoarder. My husband constantly purges his things. I don’t know why, but you can usually find him throwing something in the garbage (or better yet making a charity pile). You’ll usually find me asking him why he’s getting rid of those pants or those shoes. His other philosophy is, if I haven’t used it in more than 6 months it needs to go. I, on the other hand hardly ever throw out anything and continuously bring home papers and random other stuff that ends up sitting around the house. Hubby helps me to evaluate needs versus wants and encourages me to help others by donating to charity.

So tell me…what are some reasons you married your spouse? Make your own list of 10 and mail it to your spouse if they usually check the mail or leave it somewhere creative so that they will find it. Benefits untold. Be sure to check out all of the other reasons I married my spouse below:

Reasons 1-7

Reasons 7-14

Reasons 15-21

Reasons 22-28

Reasons 29-35

Reasons 36-42

Reasons 43-49

Reasons 50-56

Reasons 57-63

Reasons 64-70

Reasons 71-77

Reasons 78-84

Reasons 85-91

Reasons 92-98

Reasons 99-105

Reasons 106-112

Reasons 113-119

Reasons 120-126

Reasons 127-133

Reasons 134-140

Reasons 141-147

Reasons 148-154

Reasons 155-161

Reasons 162-168

Reasons 169-175

Reasons 176-182

Reasons 183-189

Reasons 190-197

Reasons 198-204

Reasons 205-211

Reasons 212-218

Reasons 219-225

Reasons 226-239

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Happy Valentine’s Day from Science of Marriage Blog

Well hello! I just wanted to wish you all a Happy Valentine’s Day. I am hoping that on this day you and your spouse or significant other are celebrating not only your love for one another, but the love that God has for you. Blessings and remember:

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365 Reasons I Married My Husband (Reasons 226-239)

About a week ago I was sitting at work writing my Ph.D. thesis and listening to Pandora. I know you guys know that feeling when you are listening to your Pandora station and they seem to be playing all of the right songs. Well that’s what it felt like for me, or maybe I am just severely missing my husband who is on a flight as I type this blog post to come back home and visit his wife for 3 weeks. My hubby is currently working in Saudi Arabia so we treasure those periods of time when he can come back home. Anyway, I’m getting off onto a tangent. Several songs were played that were so influential in our relationship. So, I’ve decided to share with you guys some songs that confirm the feelings I have for my husband are real…because some else had to feel these feelings too to even write this music. Now mind you, I’ve know my husband since we were preteens so this list that I’m going to share with you guys today is going to cover a lot of goodies that may have you reminiscing about your spouse. :) I hope you enjoy these musical selections and the reasons these songs mean so much to me (us).

Obviously music is very important to us. Here is a picture of my husband singing to me at out wedding reception surrounded by a room full of his frat brothers. I don’t know where the heck he got a microphone and in case any of you are wondering…no…my husband has absolutely no vocal skills whatsoever. Oh and what’s he singing…if I remember correctly it’s Al Green’s Let’s Stay Together.

The reason I married my husband is…

226. …Brian McKnight’s Crazy Love. This song came out the summer that we met (we were 12). We were crushing on each other quite a bit. I just remember I kept hearing this song over and over. That summer after I went back to my hometown he wrote me the sweetest love letter and wrong the words, “Crazy Love” at the bottom. I still have that letter to this day. He’s always had such a way with words that continue to melt my heart today.


227. …Eric Benet’s I Wanna Be Loved. This song is about taking a risk and putting your heart on the line. It’s about loving someone and wanting that love to be reciprocated. The love we share honestly never made sense. The majority of our relationship was spent in two separate cities. We’d been together on and off since high school and we often lost faith that we’d ever end up in the same city, so when he moved to Houston to allow his heart to take a chance on our love…I promised him he’d never regret it. Now, we’re loving one another faithfully and truthfully.


228. …Nivea’s 25 Reasons. Man this brings back so many memories! Okay so every word in this song applies to us, but when she mentions #12 when her man does not trip about her being in the studio late just replace that with my hubby not tripping when I’m in the laboratory doing experiments at 2 o’clock in the morning. Oh and change beef roast to pork chops. ;)


229. …Jill Scott’s He Loves Me. All I can say is he loves me especially different…and I’m glad he does.


230. …Teddy Pendergrass’ My Greatest Inspiration. I mean come on…obviously my husband inspires me…I wouldn’t be listing 365 reasons I married him. He builds me up….HIGHER!!!! RIP Teddy.


231. …Anita Baker’s Sweet Love. I feel no shame, I’m in love.


232. …Cee-Lo and Melanie Fiona’s I’m A Fool. I have been told on multiple occasions by loved ones that a woman should never trust her husband as much as I trust mine or give as much of their heart as I give to mine. First, let me say this…God, my Father, wouldn’t have it any other way. I am meant to have the world’s strongest connection with my husband, more so than any other human being on this earth. That being said, if you think I’m a fool for loving him the way that I do, remember this…I am free…my heart is not guarded…it belongs to him…my marriage does not have a plan B so I am putting every ounce of my love into it and living with no regrets. Baby you are just so rare they swear that you don’t exist! You’re the man among these other boys!


233. …The Whispers I’m Gonna Make You My Wife. My hubby used to sing this song to me long before we were married or even engaged. You wouldn’t believe how big I am smiling right now as I’m listening to this song.


234. …Gerald Levert’s Made To Love You. When we were younger and when he was still alive, I used to tease my husband that I was going to marry Gerald Levert. My husband is a small build guy so he’d say, “I don’t know what you want with me because I don’t look like a Teddy Bear.” LOL! Anyway, this song rings true because both of us belong that it was destiny for us to meet at such as young age, have a long distance relationship for years and then end up getting married. Also Gerald says something about the circumstance of life making the couple better suited for one another. Sometimes you have to go through some personal growth in order to be the best man or woman you can be for your partner. Boy oh boy…did we experience a lot of that too. Anyway…enjoy. RIP Gerald.


235. …Lauren Hill and D’Angelo’s Nothing Even Matters. His love makes me feel 10 feet tall…without it I go through withdraw.


236. …Luther Vandross’ I’d Rather. This song came out on the heels of one of our college break ups. Actually…it was the last time we broke up and we’ve been together ever since. Thanks Luther for helping us see the truth about our love and getting us back together. I’d still rather have bad times with my husband than good times with someone else. I’d rather be beside him in a storm than safe and warm by myself. I’d rather have hard times together than to have it easy apart. I’d rather have the one who holds my heart.


237. …Clint Black and Lisa Hartman’s When I Said I Do. I have always loved this song. First time I played it for hubby he loved it too. I think it might be the only country song he knows all the words to. When we said ‘I do’ we meant that ‘we will until the end of all time.’


238. …Aerosmith’s I Don’t Wanna Miss A Thing. When this song first came out along with the movie my hubby used to sing it all the time in his awful singing voice, but I am convinced he meant the words he sang to me. I wonder if this song is the reason why sometimes I wake up to him watching me sleeping. Used to creep me out, but I think he just love me. *shrugs*


239. …last, but certainly not least, Kenny Lattimore’s For You. This was the first dance song at our wedding picked out by hubby himself. We took dance lessons for weeks learning a routine to this song and every time we listened to it we reflected on the journey we were about to begin with one another. Everything I do now makes sense and all roads end…everything I do is for him.


If you’ve missed any of my other non-music related reasons I married my husband please feel free to check them out below. Have a blessed day!

Reasons 1-7

Reasons 7-14

Reasons 15-21

Reasons 22-28

Reasons 29-35

Reasons 36-42

Reasons 43-49

Reasons 50-56

Reasons 57-63

Reasons 64-70

Reasons 71-77

Reasons 78-84

Reasons 85-91

Reasons 92-98

Reasons 99-105

Reasons 106-112

Reasons 113-119

Reasons 120-126

Reasons 127-133

Reasons 134-140

Reasons 141-147

Reasons 148-154

Reasons 155-161

Reasons 162-168

Reasons 169-175

Reasons 176-182

Reasons 183-189

Reasons 190-197

Reasons 198-204

Reasons 205-211

Reasons 212-218

Reasons 219-225

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Marriage Isn’t Just Sex…It’s Conversation and Laughter

Another powerful spoken word video from bball1989 on Sex, Marriage and Fairytales. Enjoy!


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365 Reasons I Married My Husband (Reasons 219-225)

The reason I married my husband is…

219. …he keeps his eyes closed slightly longer than me when we’ve finished kissing. It’s kind of like he’s savoring the moment and it’s so sweet. I love that he doesn’t look embarrassed when he sees me waiting that extra 2 seconds for him to open his eyes after our kiss is over. I pray he never stops savoring our kisses. (I don’t know if you can tell, but my eyes are open in this kiss. This was taken right before we stopped kissing and I was waiting for him to open his eyes.)

220. …we have this extreme connection. It’s really hard to explain, but sometimes if I’ve had a headache all day, I’ll find out later that my hubby has had one all day too. Sometimes we finish each other’s sentences or when I’m thinking about something my husband will start a conversation with me about the very thing I’m thinking about. It undeniably freaks me out sometimes, but I couldn’t imagine having a husband who NEVER knows what I’m thinking.

221. …he could have lied to his friends, but he didn’t. My husband and I met when we were 12 years old. Back then there was a lot of peer pressure for us to kiss one another. Children can be so cruel. Well, one day I happened to be hanging out with my now hubby in his family’s backyard where we were jumping on the trampoline. We spent the whole day out there talking and jumping and nearly killing ourselves trying to do tricks on the trampoline. The next day his friends came over and they starting asking him if we ever kissed and giving him a hard time because he was honest and he said that we hadn’t. At the moment, although we were very young, I knew two things. First, he’s honest. Second, he respected me. Guess what (to my husband’s stupid childhood friends), we kiss all the time now dorks! LOL! And, quite possibly the fact that we didn’t kiss at a young age is why we don’t have babies out of wedlock and all of you guys do. I’m just sayin…

222. …because he often says “so much” when he tells me he loves me. It’s enough to here “I love you,” but it’s a whole other level (in my mind) when the man I married says, “I love you so much.” Those two extra words make my day.

223. …he respects our furniture. Okay, remember when you weren’t married and you were dating guys and maybe you’d invite them over for dinner or to hang out with some friends for game night? Do you remember observing their behavior when they came into your home? Did the guy in question ever put his feet up on your coffee table or lean back in your dining room chair so that is only stood on it’s back legs? Well I know guys like that and thankfully, mine was raised with some home training. While he’s comfortable enough to put his feet up when he’s at home now, he never did disrespect my furniture. Kuddos to my hubby’s Grandma…she raised her baby right!

224. …he understands the trials and tribulations of being a black woman with non-chemically treated hair. My husband was raised in a house full of women so he knows and respects the amount of work that has to go into the maintenance and styling of African American hair. I find it hilarious that when my hubby wants to go to the park or to an outdoor shopping mall he’ll check the weather first, for me of course. He might ask something like, “The weather app says the humidity is 70%, that’s too high for us to be outside because of your hair right?” Yes sweetie, if the humidity is that high, in the great state of Texas we’ve got to find an indoor activity.

225. …he holds the umbrella, but always ends up getting wet. What can I say, my husband is a gentleman. He tries to hold the umbrella so my hair (cause truth be told I’m really not concerned with much else) doesn’t get wet. We have a huge umbrella too so I don’t know why it is that I am usually nearly dry, but my hubby ends up with one side of his body soaked when we’re walking in the rain. He likes to tease me by saying that he knows I’ll melt if I get caught in the rain so he’d rather risk getting himself soaked than me. Come to think of it…he’s partially right.

Thank you for joining me on this journey of appreciating all the little things that I love so much about my husband. If you want to check out any of the other reasons I married my hubby you can find them   in the links below. Be sure to check back next week as I’ll have 7 brand new reasons that I a married my hubby and I’ll share them with you guys. And as always, please feel to comment and share with me below a few reasons you decided to marry your spouse. Be blessed:

Reasons 1-7

Reasons 7-14

Reasons 15-21

Reasons 22-28

Reasons 29-35

Reasons 36-42

Reasons 43-49

Reasons 50-56

Reasons 57-63

Reasons 64-70

Reasons 71-77

Reasons 78-84

Reasons 85-91

Reasons 92-98

Reasons 99-105

Reasons 106-112

Reasons 113-119

Reasons 120-126

Reasons 127-133

Reasons 134-140

Reasons 141-147

Reasons 148-154

Reasons 155-161

Reasons 162-168

Reasons 169-175

Reasons 176-182

Reasons 183-189

Reasons 190-197

Reasons 198-204

Reasons 205-211

Reasons 212-218

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